Live Music for an Asian Wedding: “Your Band MADE My Wedding!”

Sometimes the families and guests at Asian weddings are shy about dancing in public. Here is a letter I especially treasure from a recent Asian bride who was afraid her father would not dance:

Hey Judy,

The whole band was great. They were so talented! Sam and I loved the band because we could tell that they love what they do. As you know it makes a difference when one puts a soul into music makes that much differnce. That is the difference between the band that you provided vs other bands out there. Not only did they put their best effort into singing but they put their souls into singing. We as musicians, Sam and I loved it.

Sam kept saying how beautiful the wedding turned out to be thanks to the band. He didn’t like the quartet that we had hired thru someone else for the ceremony very much because they were there to get their hours clocked in and out. On the other hand, your band gave us so much, even after the wedding was over and the guests had left because Sam and I wanted to have a dance to ourselves. Sam and I danced to “It Had To Be You” and “La Vie En Rose” all to ourselves. Everyone was gone but ONLY Sam and I had that dance. It felt so special to have a dance floor to ourselves and no one else. It felt like I was part of the movie. Sam kept prasing about what a difference the band made for us. Most of people who had a wedding told me they wished they would have saved money somewhere but we said we will exactly spent the money the same way and have it no other way Because it was just perfect.

Judy, all my girl friends cried when i was dancing with my dad. I was crying and my Dad was crying and when he was crying he said “I am so proud of you, for just being you. I can’t ask for a better daughter.” I still get tearful thinking about my dad. I know that moment will always stay with me in my heart. I told my dad “I love you very much and thank you for raising me and thank you.” We danced to “What A Wonderful World” from the beginnig to end. My friend whose dad just passed away, she told me “It was so beautiuful but heartbreaking at the same time and I was just thinking about my dad” and my other friend who had such a hard time with her own dad because of their differences, she said “helen, you dancing with your father really hit me home, I wish one day I can be like you and your dad” And Sam said “When you were dancing with your dad, i was so tearful. I was trying my best not to cry but it was really hard watching you and dad crying it is so heartbreaking” It was really touching.

I think your band made my wedding day so special that no one else ever could have done it. Judy. They were everything you said they would be, and more. I am so thankful to you and your band for making my wedding day so memorable. I heard so many compliments from my relatives and friends.

I saved a couple of mugs for you from our wedding favors. My brother made them. They are so clever. You and I have good sense of humor i thought you might enjoy them too. Hopefully you have received them.

Please send me some of your cards. Now that I am in the real estate business people will be asking for a lot of referrals. I have several friends who are not married. AND THEY LOVED your band. So I want to hold onto your business cards and refer you.

Love you dearly,
Helen Park